Hmmm, maybe an idea for that tattoo you've been contemplating? I like it!
Okay, Nomo, I think I get it. And in a weird sense, I think I've accepted it a lot more than H thinks---we're splitting up. It's done. I may as well go along for the ride. And I think he knows how I feel, enough, anyway, and you know, it just doesn't touch him.
How's this new email draft:
"I can accept that the marriage is over and support you in what you want to do. If and when you decide it's time to move out, I'll do whatever I can to be helpful. I want you to be happy and to be your friend.
And I can discuss time/scheduling questions, money, etc. I think it would help me to take these one by one, and specific questions would be simpler to address than larger, more amorphous ones.
Re what I want given the current reality, I want you to spend as much time with the boys as you want. I want to live in the house with them and I want you to continue to provide for us financially. I want us to work together to maintain and improve our relationship and communication. I want time to spend for myself, some of which I may ask you to provide by watching the kids.
How's that for a start?"
Looking forward to feedback. Maybe I'll get this email sent before I leave tomorrow (for a few days).
