Sue, I find myself doing the same thing regarding the girls. I feel I am just approaching H about things, but he sees it as nagging. Now, I just do my own thing. I used to fret and fret about the silliest things, and wonder "What would W want to do?", but now I just decide and do it. And guess what, they see it as stronger and independent. Isn't that what your H wants from you? Basically that's what you ended up doing today (by bringing the bike yourself), but let's try it without getting his dander up. Not easy, as these spouses are M O O D Y
About the phone, do what you want. H doesn't matter in the scheme of things.
