Hi wl- I am sorry you are hurting so especially on your birthday. You have to take a step back and understand that your H isn't intentionally doing this to you. I don't know whether or not he knows today is your birthday, but my guess is that he didn't remember. Their life, at the moment, is all about them, how they feel and what is going to make them happy. IMO, they are not emotionally equiped to think or care about what we are feeling...how could they function if they really understood what they were putting us through.
Go do something for yourself tonight...even if you just go to the movies by yourself. At least it is an escape from thinking about all of this for a little while.
I know once I got through each birthday or anniversary, things seemed to get a little easier for me. I hope the same is true for you.
