lost in the land of confusion 8 and holding

[LuvMyHusband]

ROFL. too funny. I do sleep in his tshirts. I guess I'll keep this one OUT of the laundry.

[SueS]

That's not pathetic at all. When we were really troubled and H was away on business I used to take his one of his T shirts out of the linen pile and sleep with it. I still curl up with his pillow if I am feeling sad in the afternoon and want a snooze.

Saffie....I was just going to say the same thing. I went to my parents home over the weekend and I took one of H's shirts with to sleep in so I could feel at least the smallest amount of connection to him.

The other pathetic thing I do when he's gone out is to smell his shirts or look them over. Do they smell of perfume?.....Do I see unfamiliar hair?? Sounds really bad, but my H had a previous A and I would find OW's long, curly hair on his clothes. Mine was not long and not curly! Made me sick!

SueS

[saffie]

I didn't even know my H was having an A until he told me. That's how duh! I was. he had been leaving a trail of clues and I didn't notice!!!!

That frighten's me. What if he did it again? Perhaps I wouldn't notice that either. Gulp

Saffie

[LuvMyHusband]

"The other pathetic thing I do when he's gone out is to smell his shirts or look them over. Do they smell of perfume?.....Do I see unfamiliar hair?? Sounds really bad, but my H had a previous A and I would find OW's long, curly hair on his clothes. Mine was not long and not curly!


Hi Sue,
You have got to stop doing that! You are only torturing yourself. I think it would also be considered pursuing. I know it's hard believe me. One of the problems my H has with me is that he feels I am always checking on him which he is right. Of course, he's given me reason but it still has to stop. I have stopped, no more. I realize I can't do anything about his behavior, nor can I control him nor is my "knowing" going to make any difference. Remember, we can only control and change ourselves.

[LuvMyHusband]

I sure hope that didn't sound harsh. My apologies if it did. I know how hard it is to not look. I feel much better since deciding to not check on him anymore.

[saffie]

That didn't sound harsh and it's stuff we need to remind ourselves all the time.

You are sounding so much stronger already.

saffie

[saffie]

I have got to get off the PC for a while. my H wants to spend some time with me. Hopefully back later.

Husband, Look forward to your email.

Saffie

[LuvMyHusband]

you go girl!

[Sara]

Hey Husband,

Just wanted ot let you know that I'm betting on you to win back your wife too.

[LL44]

saffie, same here!! I was BLOWN away about H's A, when he confessed. And in the aftermath, I realized there was a ton of signs, I just didn't see them for whatever reason.