lost in the land of confusion 8 and holding

[LuvMyHusband]

"The other pathetic thing I do when he's gone out is to smell his shirts or look them over. Do they smell of perfume?.....Do I see unfamiliar hair?? Sounds really bad, but my H had a previous A and I would find OW's long, curly hair on his clothes. Mine was not long and not curly!


Hi Sue,
You have got to stop doing that! You are only torturing yourself. I think it would also be considered pursuing. I know it's hard believe me. One of the problems my H has with me is that he feels I am always checking on him which he is right. Of course, he's given me reason but it still has to stop. I have stopped, no more. I realize I can't do anything about his behavior, nor can I control him nor is my "knowing" going to make any difference. Remember, we can only control and change ourselves.