W and D got back from their mini vacation the other day and on thier way home I got a happy TXT message from W letting me know they on way back.
I txt W later asking her to stop at the store to pick up some stuff for me and that I might make them dinner if she can do this.
I got her short txt back . OK
I get home and I had a good lot of positive PMA going , Went up to D gave her big hug talked about what she had been doing etc. W was in a grumpy on the couch , I said hi and was friendly and up beat , she then got up and gave me one of those look away kisses where the turn their head at the last minute. I set about preparing dinner and talking with D getting in on her excitement about what they had been up too , I was feeling good. It wasnt long befre W wanted in on the act and started to engage in the conversation and lightening up. I had the opportunity to tease W light heartedly a few times and took it , when dinner was done I sat with W on the couch this was at a time when I know she would want to watch a programme on TV so I got the remote and changed to a game show we all like instead where the kids and me sit round shouting out the answers and making fun of the contestants. W got into this too . When she left i got a proper kiss and I have not talked with her since.
Big Deal you may say , however normaly W would have either wanted to make dinner or not bother to stay. She would want to exert some control over what she still sees as her family.
I took control before she even got home by directing her to the Supermarket. I kept the PMA high and directed the whole evening.
I actualy had a good time and guess what she did too.
This has absolutley nothing to do with our on going sitch but its puting into practice stuff I have learned from " making her happy" and " way of the superior man" plus other stuff I have read or listened too lately.
Who better to practice this stuff on than W since she is here often enough. Its got to be useful going forward.
