I know this is very very hard, but give her lots of space and work on you. It's all you can do for now.

Also, I can guarentee you, you don't want her back until she fully realizes that she truly wants to come back to you.

In the meantime you have to work on YOU. You have to work on being strong, independent, your happiness cannot depend on her. You need to learn to be happy within yourself with or without her. You have to recreate and rebuild yourself into the kind of guy ANY woman would be thrilled to be with. I say park yourself in a good book store, or the library a few nights a week, sign up for a class and join some social groups.... You got work mister!!!! Expect this to take time.

Stop this relationship talk with her and start focusing on YOU!!!!

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.