There is so much wisdom in the last few posts I am wondering " where did that come from??"
I gues we get to a stage with our R's where we first realise the truth, then we accept the truth. Then we get comfortable accepting the truth.
Then its time to move ahead at our own pace , some ill go quicker than others and its no surprise to me its Nomo
Some of us will get impatient waiting for Spouses to take the next step. There should be no going back not for any of us , its new R's for all even if its with our spouses again.
Oh and Sunshine , its good news that you are making a new start with your H !