I'm a bit behind on this thread, but something you said earlier is very familiar to me:
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The thing that prevents me from bringing this up tonight is one look at my H's calendar for the week. He has multiple evening meetings, many of them involving intense type issues.
One thing I see in my W is the tendency to get so involved with whatever activity is at hand that she neglects her own needs. Naturally, the relationship is not even on the radar scope during these phases, which is most of the time.
With regards to all the "he's gay theories", I wonder if your H's issues stem from:
1. Martyr syndrome, takes on too much and tries to please everyone but you. 2. Low libido 3. Performance anxiety from knowing that he isn't satisfying you. 4. Mild depression.
Rather than being gay. I could see where this could cause him to avoid S. Not that knowing the root cause helps much, you still aren't going to get much lovin IMO.
You also said one time that you were an Enneagram Type 8/2 pair, am I recalling this right? I was reading about various pairings and this one came up as a big problem, it gave details but I forget exactly which site it was. I can find it if you are interested. BTW I put a lot of stock in the Enneagram/Briggs typing, I find it very accurate in predicting behaviors at home and work.
