What I know....

[whitelight]

He knows what a skank ow is. But he can't do any better, so it makes him feel like a loser.

Well, I guess we know what doesn't work... trying to talk to ex in a rational matter or like a human being.

Just go through the lawyers and detach as best you can.

Ex really has major issues that go way beyond mlc.

I'm sorry for your struggle.

[jmw]

Hi, may i suggest you print off the recent e-mail correspondance and next time you see ex H, hand them to him and ask if he would check that he had seen all of them, this is one way of showing him if OW was intercepting his mail and so kindly answering on his behalf.

you probably wont get a reaction but you may just prove a point.

[always_14]

((( mtn )))

Well, big surprise, huh. Talking rationally to H, being kind to bullying and explaining your reasoning for the trip stuff DID NOT WORK???? Shocker.....

Honey, easier said than done. But, these people are lunatic. They are trashy. They are sucking you in.

Step back, and think ONLY of the kids and what matters pertain to them between the both of you. Then, take this to the L. Through the L or court, assign specific ways you will communicate with H, and only in those ways. Ignore everything else.

I don't care how nice he becomes in the near future, and seems normal or coming out of the tunnel. He's not really. He reverts back to this and drags you down in it. He is not normal or healed.

So, now you know who you are dealing with...that's a given. How to work around it now.

Stay calm, step back, focus on only what you need to with him, and come up with a solution that allows you to communicate and interact with him ONLY on those points, and nothing else. Eliminate him from your life. Your kids are fine without parents having a 'getting along' R....right now they would be happy just to be rid of this drama. Unfortunately, it's your job now, as the sane one, to minimize it.

He has no right to do these things to you, to yank your chain, to have power over you.

Take it back. NOW.

[myturnnow]

I have to make this short as D needs a ride home from school.

I try to be nice, he misinterprets it so it has to be all business.

I ignore and he comes on stronger.

It is time to get back my power and control.

It's up to the L..I emailed him yesterday.

No more reactions.

He is coming to get the kids for a few hours today..Won't take them overnight as he says my "booty call" with New Guy has to wait until next weekend..

whatever.

Thanks so much for all of your posts..

Whitlelight..LOVED hearing from you..I like your wit!!

IMP! Love your rational..F*** it..works for me!!

JMW-- THanks for visiting..I thought about that..showing him the emails..but I don't care anymore..He knows she is a loon so I am done try9ing to prove it..I will use the emails for court.

Well, I had a good day teaching however, it was a reality check..Many of my students have lost members of family in drug related murders, etc..It was truly a wake up call.

They are WONDERFUL kids and I think they all have so much to offer..getting them to realize this is truly my quest..

hugs,

MTN

Oh, I am wearing my garlic necklace just in case XH gets too close to me today..lol

[kikifree]

MTN,

I read your thread daily and see how you can turn yourself around quickly. You sound better already.

I agree that your success has been bothering OW and XH. You are happy and have everything going for you.

I do think that email was from OW.
How pathetic. She is that insecure and you are not.

I agree with IMP , screw it!

See how Psychotic they are??


You have every right to protect your children. I do think your XH is trying to get you pulled back into the drama.

[myturnnow]

Hey Kiki!

Thanks for the visit..

There must be a full moon..

I was so excited to go out with New Guy last night..as it is our night off..but XH wanted to take the kids for few hours instead of the whole night..whatever..we still wanted to go out..

Well, we went into my favorite restaurant in the next town over and..you guessed..

XH there with the kids.

We stayed..I was starving..

D thought it was funny..S was like..whatever..XH not friendly at all.

Good thing I had a stiff drink..

All is well in MTN land for the moment..

No reaction last night as I was going to be nice as I always am..

Good day all..

I am WIPED!!

xoxo

[whitelight]

I can see why it's your favorite restaurant as they apparantly don't let rats in.

It really doesn't matter, but I think that email was written by ex. Why does he not want you to say her name, under number 2? That doesn't make any sense.

[myturnnow]

Hey W.L..

I thought the same thing about the text in regards to saying her name..

That was so funny..no rats allowed..lol

I thought I saw her tipping over garbage cans in the parking lot.

What have you been up to?? Keep me posted..

hugs,

[Cinderellaman]

If I may ask MTN, how does New Guy handle an evening like that ? Just curious ....

[myturnnow]

Hey Cinders!

Good question..How new guy handles all this..

Well, I don't know if he is up for saint of the year award or what.

1. he is very supportive yet does not instigate
2. He remains friendly to XH despite the bulls**t which is important for me and for the kids to see
3. Simply, he knows what a freak XH is..He feels bad for me..He hugs me when I need it..but he gives me pep talks and does not let XH bring me down.

So, to answer your question, New Guy could not handle all this stuff any better. He does not get his nose in it but is here when XH gets the kids if I want him here. When XH gets kooky and starts really getting abusive, New Guy is pretty much by my side silently supporting me.

I am one lucky girl..I do know that..

New Guy tells me all the time how lucky HE is so we're even!!