The Good, the Bad, and the Funny 4

[nephartiti]

MK, lwb and Morgan are right. Your kids will be strong because they will draw from your incredible strength. You are a very strong capable woman.

Your H is going to be ok too. It's just going to take a while, possibly a long while. They say that, when they begin to come out of the tunnel, they reconnect with pets and kids first. It is important for you to stay well hidden in the background and not pose any threat, not have any demands on him. Plus, I know this is hard when what they are saying is pure crap, but you need to validate his feelings, even when he blames you for everything. I know. That sucks. Just remember that, underneath the costume of this imposter, is the man that you love. He is scared and hurt and confused. Just like we are still all dealing with our grief over and over again, he is reliving his. This takes time. There is no way around it. You need to just keep taking care of you and yours. That is the greatest thing you can give yourself, your kids, and your H. I know you know this already, just saying it again.

Have a wonderful day. Hugs to D6 and S2, those little angels.