Sounds like you are doing ok..I liked your post about not saying all those things to h about the shoveling..it is so easy to fall back into those times of saying things that really won't help a r. Picking the battles is so important and letting the small stuff go...why make little digs that can hurt..I know I am learning to keep the mouth shut..not just with h, but with kids, co-workers. It is not worth the time, anger, whatever to nag or harp on stupid things. I have learned that with our kids especially..my d friends would say to her that I never was really strict with her, but my kids know my rules and they respect me as I try to respect them and their ideas and feelings.I have a sister who had controled everything in her kids lives..clothes, food, friends..now as young adults they can't wait for the day to be out of that house. Sorry I got carried away.Keep doing what you are..you know what works Sue
