sadly that I'm sure is not the only such site for married individuals to find extramarital affairs...gee why don't they start a site called wannahaveanaffair.com...oh wait there probably is one already...
any who...here's a good example of simple basic good dbing...
last night after putting son to bed...h opens the slider to the deck and starts shoveling and scrapping at the ice chunks making a real racket...I thought to myself...son will be right down here in less than 5 wondering what the heck is going on...in the past I would have said so much..but left it alone.
son as I susspected he would...came down and said I can't sleep...so h brought him up again...I could have then said "well gee h, no wonder the kid couldn't sleep with all that noise" but I didn't, I still said nothing...
h eventually came back down with a smile and said....
"I know he got up because of my shoveling"
I just smiled in return.
see how simple it at times can be to avoid tension....was I happy that h was making noise that would bring son down? no
did I have to say so? no
what happend because I didn't say anything...h realized it himself and made a bit of a laugh about it and we were still able to enjoy our evening.
if I had said "why are you doing that, you know he's gonna hear you and come down here"
I may have been met with well what ya get met with when you act like your someones mother when you aren't!!
