Bruce ok, you have satisfied my curiosity. Reading your post, I am convinced you are on the right path. looks like your W has to work out her MLC issues behind her stone cold wall of silence while you have decided to work on yourself to make it a better journey for yourself, with or without her. Hats off to you!
once again, our situations are very similar, except the kids and my W's decision to engage in EAs and PAs behind the wall of silence. When we separated in May, or should I say when she packed and left, I was of the idea that we were giving each other space to figure things out. And space I gave. She never invited me to her place nor did she give me any whereabouts of her intention with our R. So far so good, as I embarked upon self-introspection, reading and on a pathway to personal recovery. Little did I know that my W was already on the pathway of detachment for the last couple of years. It was also apparent that the reason she packed up and left was to pursue other relationships and MLC frolic. Still continued to give her space until I came to the point of protecting my 2 DD's emotional health from being exposed to her OMs. I never asked for 'we must talk now', but all I gave her space and a friendly warning that my kids are my number one priority and should be hers too. as you can imagine a MLCer won't like to be disciplined and she continued anyway. I struggled and struggled within myself and finally wrote a letter to her in my last attempt to save me and the kids. You will find my letter and response here if you haven't read it already. This is what prompted me to take legal action.
I think you are in a better position with your sitch and I commend you for doing whatever it takes to save your M. Thats the only way we can feel better about ourselves and will give us the healing touch to move forward with your life journey.
In the meantime, I am on a After the After the LRT. I am far from giving up.
