the feeling that they, or someone, OWES us. They should be grateful, damnit! We must fight that feeling. We CHOOSE to do this, for us. We can choose to leave.
You've truly spoken as someone who's walking in my shoes. Sadly, I had a bad R talk in which I accused my H of just taking and taking and not giving an iota. I could slap myself. Worst of all, had just read about GIVING and not GIVING IN, just what you are talking about, that we should give freely and not out of guilt or because we are expecting something in return.
Yea, I wanted my H to be gratefull for all "i've done and forgave", I wanted a freaking medal (from a person that right now doesn't even like himself)... for the forgiveness that was God's to give me to give my H. Women are like waves, and from time to time we hit rock bottom, well, I hit wayyy rock bottom last night. I had told him--during our last and only MC session 2mts ago--that I would have 0 expectations so we can start afresh as friends, and there I was, spouting that I get no affection. GEEEEEEEEZZZZZ!!!
Yea, every morning I do have to choose to be patient... all over again. Let's wait 'til tomorrow indeed.
Thanks so much for your advice, I'm on the receiving end right now, need to go over my DB Cliff notes to remember my pathway.
sorry for the hijack Frank
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
to remember my pathway.
