All hope is lost/help

[cat03]

sorry, i'm on my "rock bottom" stage, when all comes crashing down and I "clean house" so I'm pretty much on the same boat as you. I did have one of those R talks that went downhill fast (so maybe you are wise by waiting and not pushing) Expectations, expectations, it's hard not to have them but at this point neighter your H nor mine are ready for affection displays.

So my advice is to set your ML, affection, date expectations to 0 and learn to communicate with him first. I used to always advice people to hold hands, try a little something now and then, maybe it would work depending on their Hs, right now, it won't work on my sitch (it sort of did the first time around 2yrs ago, but all sitches are different)
I might follow that advice in a month or 2, too much damage was done last night.

It isn't easy, just BTDT.