Quote: eventually cuddled on the couch with him (didn't wait for an invite) and well things led to things...
Well LL - looks like I wished you a Happy Humpday a little too late!
Something else you mentioned struck me:
Quote: h is not the type of person to go to such an extent as leaving the phone off the hook so why does my mind work this way????
cause I know too many people who would.
I don't know why the mind works that way - but I think that it's completely natural. You're concerned about H reigniting something with OW - and rightly so. You need reassurance from H - a perfectly normal expectation. In my sitch, I do my best not to worry if W decides to stray. It is in her history - she did that with H #2 and look where that got her!
Even though two of her closest friends are divorced, she sees one of them going through the horrors of dating and the other tied up in a toxic R with a separated (but married) man who doesn't want to be seen in public with her but wants her available for him.
I choose to believe that my W is not seeing anyone else even though she has lots of opportunity to do so. As for me, I don't have any interest in becoming a WAH - despite what I feel are W's efforts to lead me down that route.
