Listen to dazed. The earlier you consult an Atty the better. Yes there are shysters out there but there are many good attys too. Do your homework. I found one.
But I waited too late and screwed myself. Did things I thought were okay but were not. You get caught up in the emotions and doing things "for her". That mindset makes good decisions all but impossible. A good lawyer will help you focus and to be objective.
And remember their job is not to be a MC. They are there to protect you and your rights. What they tell you may seem cold but divorce is an ugly business and you need the smarts to survive it.
Yes the Internet is useful but you will find that it is not only the state laws that count (I found lots on Alabama on the net) but the county and even the city you live in. And finally the judges you may face. This is not clear cut. Only the local lawyers will be able to tell you what your odds are, and what your rights are, given the county you live in and the judge you may face.
Last point: get a lawyer that specializes in this sort of thing.
---- dazed - where abouts in AL? I am in Huntsville.
