Piecing. It's like a fork in the Road (which way)?

[JAK58]

[/quote]I know what you mean though- I don't want to be his 2nd choice and I don't want to settle for a loveless (or one-sided love from me) M. I deserve to be loved as fully as I am willing to give love... [quote]

HB,

You hit the nail on the head. I'll be damn** if i will be second choice or, if he's staying for lack of something better, Or afraid of loosing half of everything. I deserve more.

I will wait as long as I can for him to work more on himself but,
He needs to do the work or we won't make it.


CL,

Your W i hope will see what she is missing in you M because,you are the type of person for the most part that any women would love to have as an H.


I do feel the flowers are a good sign. However, a temporary bandaid to keep me from walking while he works out his issues.




Do you think he is avoiding the work? I wondered if he was working on himself just not saying anything to me.(which I know he works like that). It seems like he's come a long way and is in the acceptance stage where he is trying to reconnect with everyone. I can see him doing things with others that he hasn't in 2 years. The spouse is the last, iv'e read. What are your thoughts on this? Yes he does need to learn how to be a complete H or I have the feeling that this M won't work. But I am still hopeful that he will do the work.

I do see that when I confront Him with matters in the M that it does bring him around more. But now I think need to step back and let him get through the tunnel the rest of the way and not scare him back in.

I do think the reason he is still disconnected is because he still has feelings for Ow even though he denies said feelings.

I will continue to distance myself, I think that might make him do the rest of the work needed.

Matilda,

You are right. The last thing he would do is counceling or retrovaille(sp?)although I might bring the weekend up to him as an option for reconnection. If he says no then i will just keep detaching.

Rings are back on although, right now i don't really feel like I can be his W when he's not ready to be an H.

YOU did not fail your H has. He is still in MLC replay land and it's just to bad that by the time he realizes what hit him it will be to late. But maybe then if you are still willing you could start anew.

Thank-you all for your help. Im'e feling a little better today but my self confidence feels a little battered.

JAK