I think they need to feel safe and secure in order to be able to admit how much they have hurt us. Lets not forget they must have talked themselves into thinking we didn't care much in order to have been able to have the A in the first place. It does take time and I have found it gets easier with time.

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength