our un-relationship

[Evie]

Wow A quite a lot to digest there, i haven't been on the boards this week. Just to let you know that i am listening and there for you. I was just as hormonal and more needy when i was pregnant, our 2nd baby (my 4th)was unplanned and i'm sure my H blames me. The more he distanced himself the more needy I became. I understand the anger and don't forget the RESENTMENT, try and let it go, you have to move forward. He is there NOW.

I am in no way an expert, but it sounds like your H is happy to be around you. I would be happy to accept what he has to offer in the affection department and keep up with working on yourself, making you a less needy person and gaining a PMA. I'm sure it sounds like you are slowly winning H round. True it is complicated with FF, but let his conscious work that out, your sharing his bed not her,he seems disturbed when she contacts him so distance yourself and don't mention it to him again. Come here and rant instead. Cat advised my to not let their moods dictate our mood or whether we had a good or bad day, she said seize the day and make it yours. I think thats so true. I tend to take things personally to, probably to much, but by distancing myself I try to ignore him and it usually helps. Yoga is great for inner peace and a calm mood.

Did you find out yet what he wanted to tell you?

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