I got my H to read the section on infidelity in DR. It really helped him see it from my perspective and realise that it would take a while. Even so my H had to work away for a while due to commitments that already existed. The A had been happening when he was doing this work away so it drove me nuts - even tho I knew that OW no longer worked for him. Even him being with people who had known about the A, (but didn't know me), really cut me up. I wanted him away from anyone who had in any way 'condoned' what he had done.
When he was away I got in a bad state and we would have the most awfull arguments. After a few months he managed to arrange it so someone else could cover. I guess what I am saying is that my H thought that because the A was over it would be Ok him working late and away. A few times of seeing the way it nade me feel and he realised that for the moment he would have to alter his working schedule. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
