LL, I have seen alot of turmoil in your life lately. See the 'giant' steps. You are a success. Your H is home and does not have to be - remember last summer when you would have been ecstatic to have H rumple bed? Instead of getting angry as bed is not made - be thankful that he is there messing it up! For years my H worked nights and for years our bed was never made - more important who's bed H is in and who joins him there. Don't sweat the small stuff. You are right, everything is within reach - how about calling Michelle's office for a phone consult or two? I think you just need a jump start - guidelines. I know that when my H clears the MLC tunnel, we will have IN WRITING what needs to be done and there will be no provisions for back-sliding - provisions to correct maybe, boundaries will be clearly defined and a blue print for a successful marriage.
Michelle has written that when you get back together there is a whole lot of 'stuff' that you (LBS) will be dealing with that you previously had to push aside - re-read DB - share w/H, and call her office for appt - even if it is only you - the perspective will be helpful. They can tell you about all you are dealing with now and help you. I went through this 15 years ago - too bad I did not learn/keep all my lessons. It jumped out at me that you have (since H's return) not been attending church - I am here to tell you - that is so important. Keep doing what works - forever! So re-read DR, call Michelle's office (they will check out your posts and you will waste no time), and pray. The most important ingredient in this is prayer. FAith. Hope. Love. LSL
