My "This is under newcomers" is locked - URGENT

[saffie]

GISH. You did not miss a big opportunity here. She knows you want her back. She needs to ask when she is ready. Otherwise she will come back too soon and this could happen again. She needs this, to feel bad, for two reasons. The first is that you want her to remember these feelings so she doesn't do this to you again - so that she appreciares you when she does return. The second is that she should feel bad about this. She needs to work through this and get to a point where she understands it and then can forgive herself. It's not just about you forgiving her - she needs to be able to do that aswell. She has not reached anywhere near that stage; she is still at the beating herself up about it stage. She has to move on from here.

I know you want her back but take it slow and steady. Also expect that if she does come back you may start to feel cross then at what she has put you through. Try and address this as much as you can now but these will be stages you have to work through later. Her return will by know means be the end of working on your R - it will be the start of a different, better one.

Saffie