it would be financially feasable as h still has his appartment.
h wont leave h wont so much as sleep in the basement..
h doesn't know what he wants to do...
he doesn't want to leave but knows that just being here isn't enough..
it is not all bad and that I point out to h as well...there are good things...things are better than they were before all this...h is more affectionate...more considerate of my need to sit a bit..while he tends to the kiddos...there are a lot of possitives.
there are plenty of ways to go about things without h moving back to his appartment...the house is plenty big (9 room colonial with a fully finished basement with all the emenities) there is plenty of space for each of us to have our own area...thing is the basement was to be h's cave...but he stopped hanging out down there...when he would sit down there I'd leave him be unless invited...now he's in the family room...my space (our space) so what am I to do go down to his cave?? go to my room?
another separation in this r would be the end...I will not go through another separation...no growth occured during it and none will this time either...if h goes he will be gone and that is that!
h just needs a bit of fire under his butt...
the makings of a great r are all within reach..h just doesn't seem to want to extend his arm without straightening that elbow...
