I am trying to figure this out. Just like you. That is why we are here right?
I am lost. I am frustrated.
It is not a defense mechanisim. It is who I am. It likely started as a defense mechanisim. But it made me into what I am today. I am OK with me. I don't need to find myself.
I am smart. I know whats up. I do take time to post. There is some emotion in what I post. You don't have to figure it out you just have to ask the questions.
Your husband should be the challenge not me.
If I am making you think that is a good thing. I think all the time. Sometimes I can't get away from it.
My situation sucks just like yours. I hope to hold onto "this" after my situation gets better. I see the high points. Don't know why but I do. I for sure have NFC disease.
I know you appreciate what I have said. I know you don't "Need" you husband. I don't need my wife either. I want her to want me. Me, you, everyone here wants it to work. The unlikely couple. The LBS (Forrest Gump) and the WAW (Erin). If anything I am giving you a look from the other side. I have seen the woman in you since day one. You don't think I see the woman in my wife? What do I have to say? Look at what you just posted. Look at how smart you are. You came here a woman that counted on her husband for EVERYTHING. And you just posted ^^^^^^^^ that. Who should be missing you now?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.