this man is so confused it saddens me...this man doesn't know where to turn so doesn't and that saddens me...this man loves his children and me too...but doesn't know what to do...so does nothing...

h has been "stonewalling" me for years and is only now accepting that fact...and addmitting that he doesn't like that he doesn't know what to say...

I grow more and more tired with each passing day...

I so just want for h to consider me a friend..and am sad that he does not and does not seem to want to do anything about it.

I've sent an e-mail to michelle hoping she can (if h is willing that is) give me some ideas to tackle this problem..

it is so sad when two people who obviously love and care for eachother are unhappy with eachother...it would truly be a shame for this m to end but it would be more of a shame for each of us to continue in this manner feeling lonley inside.

any advice suggestions..beatings are more than welcome...I am truly at a loss...

acting as if and saying nothing don't work....patience isn't the key in this sit..it has gone on long enough...we need to get back to basics but do not have the tools...I do not even know if at this point h would be willing...(and honestly I think it a bit hokey too) but I can't quit til I've tried.


HELP!!

this is the e-mail I sent michelle.


hello Michelle,

I am lost love from the bb..my sit is all there for the reading and you have even posted on my threads and were kind enough to send me a copy of ssm.
I am struggling with reconciliation with my h, after a six month separation..he is home...he is mostly and addmittedly home for the children.
h is unhappy I am unhappy, we do love eachother of that there is no question...the problem is that h just doesn't see me as a friend...as someone he wants to talk to or listen too...laugh with etc.
I have done the 180's and acting as if...things are better than they were before all this mess..but we are simply h and w going about business....yes showing love and affection but that friendship we both desire just doesn't seem to be there.

at this point h may or may not be open to doing something about it (h did go to my c for one appointment) do you have any suggestions?
something not to hokey....non-threatening...fun....

I am feeling like I'm at my end...and I don't want to get there...please help if you can.

LL


oh btw called h this am....he does have emotions...he was almost crying...he's tired of feeling this way too!!