Jak, don't give up yet!!!! I would also think hard about taking off your ring....wouldn't that give a message that you don't mean? Have you read Five Love Languages? What about using that as a basis for reconnecting? I know a weekend retreat would be ideal, but from the sounds of things your H would not find that a comfortable setting. That is why I thought sharing a book together could be a starting place. Or another book called something like Getting the Love you Want. I think there are exercises that you can do to work on goals, etc. I bet others here might have better suggestions (I'm sad to say that I was a failure at piecing, but I still believe it can work with others!).
