My situation is the same. My ex has an endless supply of angry. I don't know when she'll get over it. Our D was final the end of August. She doesn't remember one positive thing from the 12 yrs that we were married. I hope we can eventually work things out.
As far as the settlement goes:
It obviously depends on what state you live in. I'm not too big on divorce lawyers. I think they're basically law school flunkies that really know how to take advantage of people. My advice is to find a really good attorney that will look over your paperwork and give you good advice. Make sure you have everything in order if you have a final hearing. You'll be light years ahead of most lawyers. Give them a retainer and they'll burn it up writing letters, making phone calls and come asking for more. Also, I'm sure that any initial custody arrangements will set precedent for future arrangements. Most of the state statutes are online.
As far as reconciliation goes:
You sound pretty angry too. I know the only time that I'll have a chance with my ex is if I can ever forgive her parents. They are extremely difficult people. Really judgmental and negative. I never got along with them, but in hindsight should have let a lot of it slide. I think it played a big part of my divorce.
