Love the name. Question: Is your W intimidated by you?
Blunt and forceful is fine for dispensing advice and 2 x 4's here. Can get a little tiresome to some people. Your W one of them?
Do you really respect your W and the way she wants to be loved? Your 110% physical. I'm the same way, so I know where you're coming from. You also said something like taking a silver box and glueing shite on it would be received by your W as something good (her love language being gifts -- or whatever the term is, drawing a blank). Blunt's fine. Honest is fine. That sounds pretty damn dismissive. You might not intend it, or even think you're being dismissive. Your W might see it so.
Anyway, just a few sleep-deprived thoughts.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY