Hi there. I recently started frequenting this site again. I have posted under "separated now what?" Y'all's situation is almost identical to mine. W stated she wanted a D. I said ok, just give me 90 days before filing so that I can get my living arrangements in order, we were already separated. Her sister told me that W was still unsure about wanting a D. W agreed to the 90 waiting period on the condition that I sign the papers. She swore that she would not file until 90 days. I believe her b/c the only issues we had were fussing and bickering. That's it. Anyways, I signed. I also told her that if she was deadset on a divorce, we could forego the 90 days wait. She said she she wanted the D. I remained calm, but was ripped apart inside. Last sunday she sends me a text msg telling me that her sister had delivered her 1st child. I was sad b/c I wasn't there b/c her family loved me and I loved them. We exchanged a few msgs and I cut it off. The papers are not filed although I told her to go ahead and file. Better to get it over with instead of foolishly holding out hope I thought. Maybe the birth of her nephew has just distracted her and she will file soon enough. Or maybe she will catch "baby fever" and realize that our issues don't warrant throwing in the towel yet. Who knows. I still cant get over her saying that she wanted to remain friends after the divorce, if we divorce. That would kill me to see her with another man. However,if I want her back after the D, being her friend would help that more than it would hurt. Thoughts? I am at a loss and in limbo for now. To be continued...
