I left my WAW a note in her mailbox this afternoon. After just finding out about the OM, I felt like I needed to at least get a few things off my chest (especially regarding the kids):
1. She got into this relationship before our divorce was finalized. Everything I have read is that it is not good for the kids to be around this. She didn't make any attempt to be discreet around the kids with this guy. I think I have a right to be a little concerned?
2. I'll get over it eventually, but right now I feel really awful.
I left a couple voice mails, but she never got back to me. Guessing this isn't in the Dbusting manual, but finding out about the OM has been a really painful experience. Only upside I see is that these relationships apparently almost never last. She also only wants to communicate by email regarding any issues involving the kids. I hope this is only a short-term thing. It seems really immature. I'm trying to schedule parent-teacher conferences right now and she won't get back to me.
Another thing I've been kind of curious about is the average length of time to reconcile a marriage after the spouse has walked out. It seems with marriages that last around 10 yrs that there is usually about a 2-3 yr time frame if reconciliation is successful. It would be good to get Azhira's input. She seems to be dialed into the WAW thought process pretty well.
