I used to think I was in control, but lately, I don't know. My patience is wearing very thin as the Rat and XH are really, really provoking me and using the kids to do so.
I sent XH an email with the kids schedules, open house dates, basketball games, etc. I needed to know what dates we were exchanging as he is going away during his weekend next week.
I got zero response to those questions but got another email addressing the passports and the trip he wants to take to the Dominican.
I thought it was funny how detailed the email was and how none of my questions regarding visitation were answered.
XH called tonight to talk to my D which he NEVER does..He is seeing her tomorrow, anyway.
So, I thought he was calling to talk to me about the email as I said I would be happy to discuss his email to me regarding the trip tomorrow.
He says what email??
The bi**ch won't even let me correspond via email to XH. She checks his cell phone, emails, texts, etc.
I lost it.
I know, the worst thing I can do.
I said to him I CANNOT FIGURE OUT FOR THE LIFE OF ME WHY THE HELL SHE IS IN THE MIDDLE OF ALL THIS?? WHY IS SHE EVEN INVOLVED? THE CHILDREN ARE NONE OR HER CONCERN AS I DONT GET INVOLVED WITH HER R WITH HER XH. I TOLD XH SHE IS PROMOTING OUR FIGHTING WHICH IS NOT HEALTHY FOR THE KIDS AND YOU ARE ALLOWING HER TO DO SO.
I said to him I didn't know him anymore. I told him how wonderful he was to the kids over the summer. I told him how much I enjoyed getting along with him and how I hate fighting. I said to him I didn't understand why he was constantly trying to start fights. I said to him the reason I don't want the kids leaving the country with you is that your R with the RAt is so unstable that I don't want to have to travle out of the country to get the kids when the two of you lose it. I said you make poor decisions about the kids welfare when the two of you are together and that she encourages it because XH acts like a completely different person when he is alone with them. (and he does, I am not kidding..I know you can't blame the chick with all of this but it is freakin nuts to see how much different he acts when she is around. It's like he is possessed..not kidding)
I said to him we are here for you. No matter what. I will always listen to your concern about the kids and the problems you may have with the D. But I will not listen to anymore of the dysfunction of your R with the Rat nor will I be the target of it anymore. I said the only thing you two have in common right now is your hatred towards me.
I told him not to call anymore and keep the contact via email.
Ironically, it will probably be from her.
I know I shouldn't have even responded. But this is about my freakin kids LEAVING THE COUNTRY..
XH was so pissed that I am not convinced that the kids leaving the country with him is a good idea that he is spitting nails. Kept saying to me..don't you trust me? I said based on history, no I don't.
He was LIVID. He said the judge will think I am insane as to not want the kids to have fun with their dad.
I said I encourage any type of time with the kids when you are not acting erratic and irrational. At the moment, you are doing both.
I told him he needs to give me details about any trip he takes with the kids. He said he doesn't have to and even if he did that to get me to give him passports he could lie. He said to me he could bring them to Russia if he wants.
That was the last straw.
He is f-ing nuts..NPD..or whatever..I am only human and I cannot be bullied and bullied and not respond.
This OW is unbelieveable.
How the hell do I put her in her place?
I am DYING to do that..
Four years of her involved in my sh**..She drives my car..She buys clothes that look like mine..she prods the kids for info about me...Then she f-ing changes her bathing suit and is NAKED in front of my d10 and 13 YEAR OLD SON!
