Thanks, Girl, Cat03, BeingMe, WCW, for the good words and suggestions. Yes, I would say that the nice, patient, PS is slowly fading away. Am I going to go out and do something just to instigate and make a point? I don't think so, but I will stand up when the time comes. In the last R talk I was very clear, controlled when I said, "you know I do love you....but I don't believe or can go along with....". So I made my point that I wasn't going to be pushed into something that I did not want or support. This let her know that I would not go along with anything that I thought was wrong for me or the kids. Of course though, I did say that I recognized that she did have her own choices to make and the rest of us would have to deal with them as they came up.
I feel that W is a good person that has got trapped in some positions that she doesn't feel she had full control over (Not that many of us do her), some during our M, most previous. What she thinks this will do is give her back control. But I'm sure most D people would agree that a D just puts you more out of control of what you had before. Everything becomes more of a hassle, even the children have less control of their lives. I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "Can Johnny come over? Not, this weekend he's at his Dad's. Johnny won't come to camp this year because his Mom has him this summer. So who gets the freedom? The parent has to guard the child twice as much and the child has less opportunities and freedoms.
Yes we have both changed since we were married, but I think we should grow towards, instead of away from each other. Still going to be a nice person, not sure about patient:-)
