Maybe (on my part anyway) this is an only-child thing .... but there is a vibe to being alone with yourself and content in your own company that you just can't get with someone else knocking around, even if they're not up in your face. It's not that you want to become a hermit or don't truly enjoy being in the company of others. That's apples and oranges. But you just can't fully get that communion with just yourself and God/the universe/nature/Jane Austen flicks/whatever unless you're BY yourself.
I grew up as an only child as well, so that could be part of it. But there was the part that was afraid to be myself around her and longed to be with someone that I wasn't afraid to be myself around. But that person didn't exist, so I was stuck. And since I felt like I was on the spot whenever I wasn't alone, I craved lots of time alone. There's a definite difference between these two parts, and at least one part is something we're all better off without.
Originally Posted By: Lillieperl
NOT really interested in fcuking you but just looking to feel good about himself-- THAT can be a turn off.
Or maybe he wants to have sex with her and feel good about himself as someone she wants to have sex with. Of course if he doesn't already see himself as someone she wants to have sex with, it'll fall flat. But if he does see himself as someone desirable and he's excited about showing it off for her, well, maybe he's still not quite "there" or maybe the filters are in the way.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
