Loving but not distant is a good way to put it, lwb. I had a car accident today, and posted a status update on my facebook page alluding to it. Within seconds my partner was calling...and when I went on facebook it was clear how she knew so quickly--she was at the OP's home because the "friends online now" page had the OP's ugly mug there. So she was over there, they discussed me, and my partner called from there with the OP's blessing. I told her I appreciated the call, while all the while I could hear the OP plodding around in the background. Does anyone else's spouse call them in front of the OP, or is this a sign that she really doesn't consider me any kind of threat? My partner wanted to let her know if I needed her to come and take out the dogs (uh...no...are you still sleeping with the OP?) and I had to end the conversation because I couldn't stand knowing that she was talking to me in front of the OP--how secure the OP must feel to do that. It seems to not bode well for me....
How is it that your husband can't let go? Is the OW stringing him along or has she cut it off completely and he's pining? I guess the ideal situation for everyone here is that our spouses do the ending of the A, but I get the feeling it's usually the other way around. Well, I guess when our spouses get cut off from their "drug", they go through withdrawal before realizing what made them feel so "good" was really just so bad for them in every other way. I hope your H realizes what he has with you sooner rather than later.
"In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage." -- Robert Anderson
