Ahhh... next time don't answer the phone or very NICELY use some excuse and get off ASAP!!!

Unfortunately, parenting doesn't get easier (even with neurotypical children) and it's very easy to vent frustrations on someone you are trying to push away. EXPECT kid issues to be difficult. Sadly there are probably many things you won't agree about regarding this.

Are you taking anything for your depression? If not, you might want to ask your doctor about low-level Lexapro. I know some doctors treat ASD and Autism with ADs.... by the way, just curious... ever try cutting out dairy or wheat?

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.