Well, H stood us up. I haven't heard a peep out of him today. That's ok. I'm adding PATIENCE to my mantra. I have a feeling OW is getting needy/clingy/possessive. He has to sneak away to contact his kids. I'll just let her dig her own grave over there. I'll just keep being so pleasant H will wonder why he ever left in the first place, like all that drama was just a bad dream.
I'm not feeling great today. Besides running on very little sleep, my stomach is bothering me. I hardly ever have stomach trouble because my diet is generally very clean and healthy. Maybe it was that pint of soy ice cream I ate last night...? That was probably a little too much of a good thing.
COOL CALM PEACE DARK PATIENCE
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
not sure what the process is re: a non catholic having their children baptized catholic (I am catholic, btw, but was born into it). I would go ahead and call the church again and see what the priest says. the thing is, do this because you feel it is the right thing to do, not because of any expectations you have about your H's reaction to you doing it, okay?
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Hey Neph , Sounds like you guys really bonded over that convo. Good. Go with that rebuilding of trust feeling. keep it in mind if there be any triggers on the horizon. OP do not exist. they are non issues. just silly obsatcles in the big picture of life. Any one of us could go down to the gym, or bar, or Starbucks and pick one up. they are a dime a dozen. Nada.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
mk, yes, we could always go that route, but we choose not to. I build up OW as well but today I saw her.... walking to her car, and realizing what guilt she has to live with, and worry about, and earning back her H's trust, all the time trying to be a good mother with crooked morals.
Neph, PATIENCE! I will add that too. Good job for not letting H get you down today. You are right, this keeping him for his kids will get old for your H. Be the rock!
Well, ladies, you're not going to believe this. Not two minutes after my last most, my cell starts ringing. It's H (lunch at shool had just ended and OW is back in class). He wants to stop by. I said sure, I have about an hour til I have to pick up S9.
He came with a gift... Cameras must be in season. I priced it at a min of $165.00 plus memory card and case. Not bad. It came in a BestBuy.com bag. This hasn't come out of the account so he must have opened his own best buy acct. wow. wow.
Last time he wouldn't touch my food. Today he scarfed down everything in sight including the bread pudding I made this morning. Plus he took some chiles and an apple that the kids picked. He was only here 45 minutes. He ate lunch with S2 (I made food but didn't join them). It was a nice visit over all.
Of course I thanked him for the camera, but I wasn't really sure how to act. I was really taken by surprise. I couldn't kiss and hug him like I used to in these sitches. All I could do was say "Thank you, that was very thoughtful." I know he wants pics of the kids, but really, he didn't have to do this.
I know I should just be happy, but I am still irked by the following: 1. He stayed at school all morning under her big ugly thumb. He is so whipped (but he's going contacting me on the sly) 2. He mentioned I should give his desk to the kids. I asked what he had his PC on. He said it was on the floor and that he was thinking of taking it for his brother to use. This really irritates me. It makes me feel like our sitch is permanent. On top of that, we just bought that PC while the one I have is over 4 yrs old and on its last leg.
Well, I'm not going to put too much stock in what he says. He said he was taking his books to his brother's too, but they are still sitting here. If our lives can turn upside down in a matter of months, they can turn back around too.
His current actions are promising, but I think I have to back off a little. I think I am being too available. What do you ladies think?
COOL CALM PEACE DARK PATIENCE
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
I like this a lot Nephartiti. Do you mind if I use it also?
A lady I know on another forum has the following mantra when she's venting and trying to calm herself down.
CALMBLUEOCEAN CALMBLUEOCEAN.
Hee hee...the more stressed she is, the bigger font she uses.
Sounds like a happy Neph will eventually be more appealing than a clingy OW. It just sucks that you don't know how long it will take....probably longer than we'd all like.
Aaah cameras. What is it, the infidelity gift of the Fall?? LOL
That was really nice of him. But I know what you mean about the possible permanent stuff. When my H talks about making a 'room' for my girls at his dad's, it makes me physically ill. Heck, he talked about getting a new cell phone (without us both getting one) and I was sad. lol
