what is the ow thinking??

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So.. does the guilt and self-loathing actually keep them with the op instead of driving them apart?

I think that it can keep them with the OP....the WAS starts to believe that is all they deserve. They will convince themselves that they are not worthy of you....I really believe that's what happened in my sitch.

Or... does the disgust with themselves eventually turn to disgust for the op... ??

I would assume it eventually does...but it might take years. They will grow to resent the OP...they have to. How could you not resent the person that destroyed your family?