Yes, CVA, I think you're right. H just believes that love happens. I'm with you in the BS definition, but alas, it'll only help with the next R.
Okay, so here's the next question. In response to my question to H whether he's waiting for us to be on the same page before we talk, he says "I am waiting for us to be on the same page, meaning acceptance that the marriage part is over. Without that there is no "moving on," no working on questions and issues together."
My drafted response is "I can accept that the marriage is over and support you in what you want to do while disagreeing with the course you're taking."
Comments, please.
While writing that I remembered that during our last big talk he got back to "how can you disagree?" and I said, "I don't want to discuss that anymore." He keeps trying to convince me and he's frustrated. The response I drafted above is likely to send him back around the bend, but I feel like it's honest and fair.
Also he says ">Huh. Well since I don't know what's *really* going on inside you I err on the side >of making myself scarce/small." Again, his "You're not telling me what you really think."
I responded (in draft with) "If you do something that steps on my toes---if I need more space, more time, less something else---I'll tell you. I may not do it immediately, but I will be clear."
I have to run, but I want to run some more by you all before I send it. Thanks.
