Yes, you believe he is with her. yes, you have seen evidence from the past. Yes, it feels like he has chosen someone over you. But that does not mean, and I truly belive this, that does not mean he loves her more than you, even if he has said so in the past. It is a crazy notion, and it really is none of our business, but many wayward spouses just choose the affair because it seems like an easier path than a marriage, which is work, work, work. You know that. Look how much work you are putting into so far. He would get blown away if he knew the half of what you do to keep your family happy and together.
Morgan, I do not believe it matters about the OP. I am sorry about seeing the florist account. I totally know how you feel. Completely. My mother has told me that my H is so insecure about losing his OW that he "babysits her" all night long. Even while he was at work, he checked in on her. even when she was at work, he checked in on her. That is because it is not a R of trust or faith or anything good.
Sending her flowers, that is a different behavior than he showed with you. That is a reason they have affairs, so they can be different. It is not a real or authentic or a life of integrity. C'mon. You know that. You are the real deal. You are. Soap box turned over.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
