Jak, Yes, you're making sense. His comment about feeling disconnected would be discouraging.
The flowers are encouraging. I hope it's a sign of good things to come, and not a bandaid solution.
Maybe your H sensing some distance from you might motivate him to start working. You've been putting on a brave face for him, and now can no longer endure the strain of lack of intimacy in the M.
Your H has work to do. He can't continue to avoid it. If he's going to stay married to you, he needs to learn how to be a complete H.
See what happens when you're honest with him? It motivated him to action. Don't underestimate your power and influence.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
