Quote: One thought....what would your H say if you asked if he'd consider selling the OW's business? Maybe tell him it hurts you to know he still sees her (even innocently) and it will always be a bit of a wedge.
I did make mention of it last tues night (I think that was the night or maybe friday) but I didn't use the stance that it hurts me...because honestly it will hurt him more.
asked him how he felt when plowing her driveway...if it was hard for him to not stop and say hi...or call her etc...he said well ya know.
it is not for my own feelings that I want her gone...it is for his...he does not need to be sucked into that again..does not need to have her call "oh I need this done, or that done" just needs to not have that connection...I say the rest of the houses on the street as well because it is a little culdisac..so being at any of the other 5 would give the same reaction. I made mention of selling them to another company...(first time I've put it that way rather than just saying drop them) the decision will have to be up to him...
I know that if he's been working at her house or on her street even if he doesn't talk to her or see her...it will be on his mind (more so than a normal day) and will effect the way he acts with me...causing...well a big ole mess!!
I explained all this to him...non demanding...empathetic...considerately etc.
no decision on the matter yet!!
h wants to talk to my c again...but didn't make an appointment because he didn't want to take his time if I wanted one myself...I let him know he could use the time..I've been talking to the guy every week or every other week since june so...I'll wait a few weeks.
h called me "dear" ??????
I then walked by him a litte later and said you called me dear? he said yeah...is that bad??? I said no not at all...
it is hard to hear him call the kids...honey..sweetie...and all kinds of other affectionate names...when the most affectionate name I get called by him is mamma or the full version of my name. do dear is nice. used to be sweatheart long ago..but now dd is sweatheart.
