but by confronting, you improve your chances of getting what you want, from 0%, to at least 50% That is not true Dom. Increasing the chances of getting what you want is most likely to be in the 5% range, with a 3% chance it will back-fire.
ETA So long as you do it in a firm, yet loving and respectful way, it can bring you together, rather than separate. I agree with that.
