Sometimes I think you need to put a scare into em....it definitely sent him a message. Cancelling the atty meeting is totally appropriate if you feel it was the right thing to do.
One thought....what would your H say if you asked if he'd consider selling the OW's business? Maybe tell him it hurts you to know he still sees her (even innocently) and it will always be a bit of a wedge. Make sure he knows it's not a demand, but would he do it for you? If he declines, say OK and DROP it! Again, just a thought...
