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This was an excellent post and again you are an optimist. I can directly request, confront and etc... and as Schnarch would tell you I may still not get it -



that is true.
but by confronting, you improve your chances of getting what you want, from 0%, to at least 50% ;\)

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What is the worst that will happen if I get more direct and confrontational? Well, then we will be unhappy AND won't be having sex. KWIM?? We will stop being civil, otherwise engaged, happy with one another as parents...


ok, you have to stop that. right now.

That kind of thinking is the exact reason why michelle wrote the "act as if" stuff.
you're undermining positive action on your own part, by focusing on negative stuff.

maybe you should go re-read the DB book ;\)

besides which... you're already not happy with him.

Learning how to resolve issues constructively, is crucial, in any marriage.

You dont have any way left, other than confronting.
There is nothing wrong with confronting each other about issues!
So long as you do it in a firm, yet loving and respectful way, it can bring you together, rather than separate.

Last edited by Dom R; 10/02/07 09:10 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle