Saffie, Can you read this email thread between my wife and I and tell me if I messed up?
WIFE: My day is crappy as always, just depressed. Maybe I'm the one who needs to see a doctor and be on medication because I'm so messed up in the head. I don't know what I want anymore, don't know how my life is going to turn out, and its just all messed up. ME: I'm sorry you are feeling depressed every day. I don't like to see you hurting. You have to be careful with medication because they all work different on different people. Do you feel overwhelmed or confused? There is just so much going on I understand what you are going through. You know if you need to talk, I'm here for you. WIFE: I appreciate you wanting to be here for me to talk, but you can't handle all that I'm going through with all you are trying to deal with. My stuff is my problem, not yours. Thanks though ME: Being there for you for you to talk about things makes it easier to handle all the stuff I'm dealing with. I realize your stuff is your own problem, but that's what friends are for. They help you through things. And even if all you can be right now with me is only friends, I want to be there for you without expecting more than that. I just want to be there because I care. WIFE: thanks, but the stuff that bothers me will only hurt you more. I just can't do that anymore. ME:I appreciate your worry about my feelings. But you need to know that my concern for you and how you are hurting is more important to me than anything I am going through. No one likes to see someone they care about struggling and that's why I offer my support. But if feel it will be too hurtful I understand WIFE: ok, I'm getting ready to get out of here. Ryan can stay with you tonight, I just need some time alone.
