RJ, as serendipity would have it, I just found this while trolling through the archives. Something MJ said (surprise) that is exactly what I was *trying* to say only she said it much more succinctly:
"Besides it is actually easier in some ways to be assertive rather than responsive (as long as you have a reasonably responsive partner ) because you can do all the prep work to get yourself in the mood and/or aroused yourself."
Not banging on about this, just clarifying.
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