One of the best things I got out of Mort Fertel's stuff is just that -- focusing on how you got to where you are is kindof counterproductive. Focus on fostering positive emotions and interactions, fake it until you make it, and a lot of times if you get back together, you'll find you won't need to dredge up the past. That's not to say that you don't need to focus on correcting/overcoming negative behavioral patterns that got you where you are, just that, while your R is hanging by a thread, might not be the best idea to focus on those things.
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
