M- The message you sent was not a message that would necessarily make her unhappy. You are spelling out your feelings, something I imagine that you have a difficult time expressing verbally (I know that I do!!). So she probably sees it in a positive light in that regard.
IMO, you have nothing to feel bad about. Telling your wife how you feel should not make you feel bad. This is true for all people. It is reasonable for us to expect our spouses to comfortably express to us how they feel, and vice versa.
It's hard not to look at the negative. I just don't know what to exspect. It is so easy to just not rock the boat.But I needed to do this. When I get home should I just act like no letter was sent? Like act Normal? let her make the next move?
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I agree with Mark. I don't think it was a mean or vindictive letter. It expressed you feelings and hopes.
Perhaps when you get home you could say "Did you get my email? I know it is a lot to take in, but I would like to discuss it when you are ready. I'll let you decide when you are ready. Just know that it came from my heart."
Not exactly like that, but something like it. Anyone else have any suggestions. I may be offbase here.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I agree with Yoyo. You should ask if she got it. Sometimes people don't get an email. You don't want to make any assumptions. The letter was meant to start a discussion. So you can wait til she's ready. (Within reason.)
I agree with the girls. I thought the way Yoyo expressed it was good.
There WAS NOTHING in there to upset here, unless it is the pain that she has caused you. If she is upset by that then that is good because it shows she does not want to hurt you.
You can even say to her that it took you a while to compose the letter so you completely understand if it takes a while for her to come to a considered response. It shows you care husband.
saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
